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What Does an EMDR Therapy Session Look Like in Practice: A Step-by-Step Walkthrough

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Marine Guloyan MSW, MPH, ACSW
Co-Founder; Clinical Supervisor

Marine offers an integrative approach to therapy, utilizing modalities such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Cognitive Processing therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Solution Focused Brief Therapy, and Motivational Interviewing. Marine graduated from the University of Southern California with a Master’s in Social Work (MSW), focusing on Adult Mental Health and Wellness, She also holds a Master’s in Public Health (MPH) from West Coast university. She brings over 10 years of experience working in healthcare with complex populations suffering from co-occurring, chronic physical and mental health issues. Marine is an expert in de-escalating crisis situations and helping patients feel safe and understood. She is a big believer in mental health advocacy and creating impactful change in mental health systems

You’ll begin your EMDR session in a secure, nonjudgmental environment where your therapist explains the eight phases and bilateral stimulation process. After establishing safety through grounding techniques and creating a personalized safe space, you’ll work with specific memories using eye movements or other bilateral stimulation methods. The therapist guides you through processing traumatic memories while maintaining emotional regulation and body awareness. Each session builds upon your progress, gradually transforming difficult experiences into integrated, manageable memories.

Setting the Stage: Your First EMDR Session

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When you attend your initial EMDR therapy session, you’ll encounter a carefully structured environment designed to establish safety, trust, and understanding. In this supportive environment, your therapist will explain the eight phases of EMDR therapy and what bilateral stimulation entails, addressing any concerns or misconceptions you may have about the process. During this first meeting, your therapist will begin the history-taking phase to gather essential information about your past experiences.

Your therapist will prioritize creating a secure, nonjudgmental atmosphere while obtaining informed consent. They’ll discuss treatment goals, expected outcomes, and establish clear communication guidelines for signaling distress or requesting breaks. You’ll learn about session duration, frequency, and confidentiality policies. The therapist will work on developing a secure working relationship with you to ensure effective treatment. The typical session will last 60 to 90 minutes, allowing sufficient time to address your concerns and begin the therapeutic process. Throughout this primary meeting, your therapist will assess your current ability to manage emotional distress and begin introducing basic coping strategies, ensuring you feel equipped and supported before proceeding to more intensive phases of treatment.

The Initial Assessment and History Taking Phase

The initial assessment and history-taking phase serves as the foundation of effective EMDR therapy, comprising five essential components: detailed case history, target identification, resource evaluation, baseline measurements, and collaborative planning. During this phase, your therapist will focus on identifying trauma origins while gauging therapeutic readiness.

Your therapist will guide you through:

  1. A comprehensive exploration of your past experiences, current symptoms, and life circumstances to understand how trauma has impacted your daily functioning
  2. An evaluation of your internal strengths and external support systems to guarantee you’re equipped for trauma processing
  3. The completion of standardized assessments measuring your distress levels, beliefs, and emotional responses using tools like the SUD and VOC scales

This thorough evaluation enables your therapist to create a personalized treatment plan that addresses your specific needs and therapeutic goals. The process typically requires 6 to 12 sessions to complete, varying based on the individual’s unique circumstances and symptom severity.

Building Your Emotional Safety Toolkit

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Building your emotional safety toolkit is essential before you’ll begin processing traumatic memories in EMDR therapy. You’ll learn specific grounding techniques and create a personalized safe place visualization that you can access whenever you need to regulate overwhelming emotions. Safe place protocols must be implemented by a qualified EMDR clinician to ensure proper therapeutic benefit. Your therapist will guide you through practicing these coping strategies, ensuring you’re confident in using them both during sessions and in your daily life. The Light Stream technique helps establish positive emotional anchors that support ongoing healing. The development of these skills follows a carefully structured process to ensure you feel fully supported and in control throughout your healing journey.

Grounding Exercises That Work

Developing a sturdy emotional safety toolkit begins with mastering effective grounding exercises that help you stay anchored during challenging moments of EMDR therapy. Present moment awareness through sensory anchoring techniques can quickly bring you back to a state of emotional stability when processing becomes intense. Physical grounding techniques provide immediate relief from overwhelming emotions and thoughts during therapy sessions. While these methods offer temporary relief, comprehensive treatment remains essential for lasting recovery.

The goal is to maintain your window of tolerance during therapy sessions by staying present and regulated through these grounding tools.

Consider these proven grounding methods:

  1. Engage your senses using the 5-4-3-2-1 technique: identify five things you see, four things you can touch, three things you hear, two things you smell, and one thing you taste
  2. Practice mindful breathing by following the 4-7-8 pattern while maintaining contact with a grounding chair or floor
  3. Utilize temperature variations by holding ice cubes or alternating warm and cold water on your hands to heighten sensory awareness and disrupt distress cycles

Creating Your Safe Space

Creating a personalized safe space serves as a cornerstone of effective EMDR therapy, providing you with a mental sanctuary to retreat to when processing becomes intense. During emotional resource development, you’ll select either a real or imaginary location that evokes genuine feelings of peace and security. Having comforting items nearby can help personalize and enhance your therapeutic environment.

Your therapist will guide you through sensory augmentation techniques to deepen your connection to this space. You’ll identify specific visual details, sounds, scents, and textures that make the environment feel safe and calming. Through bilateral stimulation, you’ll anchor these sensations to a cue word, strengthening your ability to access this resource independently. Engaging all senses helps establish mindfulness and grounding when emotions become overwhelming.

Regular practice helps solidify your safe space, and you can modify elements over time to maintain its effectiveness. Remember to avoid including family members, as these associations can be complex. The safe space becomes an essential mental refuge where you can regulate emotions and stay grounded during challenging therapy sessions.

Managing Emotional Overwhelm

As you progress through EMDR therapy, you’ll need a strong set of emotional regulation tools to navigate intense feelings that may arise during and after sessions. Understanding and managing emotional triggers becomes easier when you’re equipped with effective coping strategies that you can activate quickly.

Your therapist will help you develop these essential skills:

  1. Deep breathing and progressive muscle relaxation to activate your body’s natural calming response
  2. Containment exercises like visualization and “containering” to set aside overwhelming emotions until you’re ready to process them
  3. Grounding techniques including bilateral stimulation and mindfulness to stay present when distress intensifies

Since EMDR is recognized as a best practice by major health organizations, these emotional management techniques are proven tools for processing trauma effectively. The containment techniques help build emotional muscle memory while maintaining stability between therapy sessions.

Selecting and Targeting Specific Memories

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You’ll begin the memory identification process by working with your therapist to carefully examine current symptoms and their connections to past experiences. Your therapist will help you identify specific target memories using structured assessment tools, including the Subjective Units of Disturbance (SUD) scale and Validity of Cognition (VOC) scale, to measure distress levels and belief strength. Through systematic mapping of core events, you’ll uncover how certain memories link to your present difficulties, noting the associated negative beliefs, emotions, and physical sensations that arise.

Memory Identification Process

The memory identification process begins with a systematic exploration of both single-incident traumas and complex traumatic experiences. Through detailed history-taking and trauma mapping, you’ll work with your therapist to identify specific memories requiring processing. This ongoing memory evaluation helps reveal connections between current triggers and past disturbing events.

Your therapist will guide you through:

  1. Documenting the most emotionally impactful memories while carefully evaluating your ability to process them
  2. Creating an inclusive map of related memories and their interconnected patterns
  3. Developing a dynamic sequence planning approach that prioritizes memories based on their severity and your current coping capacity

This methodical approach guarantees you’ll address memories in a manageable way, preventing overwhelm while maximizing therapeutic benefits through strategic targeting of related memory networks.

Core Event Assessment

Once specific memories have been identified, EMDR therapy moves into a focused core event assessment. Your therapist will help you select the most impactful target memory based on its distress intensity and impact on daily life. You’ll work together to identify all components of this memory: the worst visual image, your core negative belief about yourself, and the emotions that surface when recalling the event.

During this phase, you’ll pinpoint specific physical sensations in your body connected to the memory and rate your current distress level using the SUD scale (0-10). You’ll also identify a positive belief you’d like to hold true and rate its validity using the VOC scale (1-7). These baseline measurements will help track your progress throughout the reprocessing work ahead.

The Core Process: Bilateral Stimulation in Action

During bilateral stimulation, a cornerstone of EMDR therapy, clients engage with carefully orchestrated sensory input while processing traumatic memories. Your therapist will select an appropriate modality based on your comfort level and sensory preferences, while maintaining continuous client safety monitoring throughout the process.

Bilateral stimulation creates a structured environment for trauma processing, with therapists carefully tailoring the sensory experience to each client’s needs.

The bilateral stimulation typically follows this structure:

  1. You’ll focus on a specific traumatic memory while experiencing rhythmic left-right stimulation through eye movements, tactile taps, or auditory tones
  2. Each set lasts 20-40 seconds, after which you’ll report any thoughts, emotions, or physical sensations
  3. Your therapist will adjust the intensity and speed based on your responses, ensuring you remain within a manageable window of activation

The butterfly hug technique offers a self-administered option, allowing you to continue processing between sessions when appropriate.

Strengthening Positive Beliefs and New Perspectives

After completing the core bilateral stimulation process, your therapeutic expedition shifts in the direction of reinforcing positive beliefs that will replace trauma-based negative cognitions. Your therapist will guide you through self esteem augmentation by identifying and strengthening realistic, achievable beliefs about yourself.

Belief Type Example
Old Negative “I am powerless”
Progression “I’m learning to be strong”
New Positive “I can handle challenges”

Through positive self talk development, you’ll rate how true these new beliefs feel using the Validity of Cognition (VOC) scale. You’ll continue bilateral stimulation while focusing on your chosen positive belief until it feels genuine and integrated. Don’t worry if this takes time; some beliefs strengthen immediately, while others require gradual reinforcement through multiple sessions.

Physical Integration and Body Awareness

The physical dimension of trauma healing involves three essential components: bodily awareness, somatic release, and nervous system regulation. During EMDR sessions, you’ll engage in targeted exercises that combine bilateral stimulation with somatic practices to address both psychological and physical manifestations of trauma.

Your therapist will guide you through:

  1. Body awareness exercises to identify areas of tension, numbness, or discomfort while processing memories
  2. Bilateral stimulation using tactile, auditory, or visual cues to facilitate neurofeedback integration
  3. Somatic experiencing techniques that support physiological self-regulation and release of stored tension

These interventions help rewire trauma-related neural pathways and strengthen your body’s natural healing mechanisms. Through mindful attention to physical sensations and guided movement, you’ll develop greater embodiment, resilience, and capacity for self-regulation in your trauma recovery process.

Wrapping Up and Self-Care Between Sessions

Successful EMDR sessions depend heavily on proper closure and ongoing self-care practices between appointments. You’ll work with your therapist to establish grounding techniques and emotional containment strategies before leaving each session. Practicing emotion regulation through breathing exercises, visualization, and physical awareness helps you maintain stability between visits.

Between sessions, you’ll engage in reviewing personal progress through journaling, tracking emotional responses, and implementing your personalized self-care plan. This may include documenting new memories, dreams, or triggers that surface. You’ll have clear guidelines for accessing support if needed, along with specific coping strategies to manage any distress. Your therapist will reassess your progress at the start of each subsequent session, ensuring continuity of care and adjusting treatment approaches based on your experiences.

Measuring Progress and Treatment Evolution

Measuring progress in EMDR therapy relies on standardized assessment tools and systematic monitoring protocols. You’ll work with your therapist to track your healing journey using two primary scales: the SUDS scale (0-10) for measuring distress levels and the VOC scale (1-7) for evaluating positive belief strength.

EMDR therapy measures healing through standardized tools like SUDS and VOC scales, ensuring measurable progress in your therapeutic journey.

Your progress will be monitored through:

  1. Regular scale data analysis at the beginning and end of each session to track emotional and cognitive shifts
  2. Client self-reflection through mood diaries, body scans, and trigger logs between sessions
  3. Systematic review of treatment targets based on your SUDS/VOC scores and reported experiences

This thorough monitoring approach helps your therapist adapt the treatment plan dynamically while ensuring you’re actively engaged in tracking your progress. Research shows this structured approach correlates with improved outcomes, with 46-60% of individuals achieving recovery from PTSD symptoms.

Frequently Asked Questions

How Long Does Each EMDR Therapy Session Typically Last?

Your typical EMDR session duration will last 60-90 minutes, with most clinics scheduling sessions once or twice per week. You’ll find that session frequency and length are customized to your specific needs. While some settings may offer shorter 50-60 minute appointments, your therapist might extend sessions when working through complex trauma or intense emotional material. The exact timing will depend on your progress, emotional regulation needs, and the phase of treatment you’re in.

Can EMDR Therapy Be Done Virtually or Only In-Person?

You can receive EMDR therapy both virtually and in-person, with research showing comparable effectiveness for both formats. Online EMDR availability has expanded greatly, offering you flexibility through secure telehealth EMDR options. You’ll find that virtual sessions can be just as effective at reducing trauma symptoms, anxiety, and depression. While some clients prefer the physical presence of in-person sessions, others appreciate the comfort and convenience of participating from their own space.

What Happens if I Can’t Maintain Eye Movements During Processing?

Don’t worry, you’ll have several options if eye movements become difficult. Your therapist can switch to alternate visual stimuli like tapping or audio tones that provide the same bilateral stimulation effect. They’ll also incorporate pausing for rest periods to prevent fatigue. Research shows these adaptations work just as effectively as eye movements. You and your therapist will find the right method that feels comfortable while maintaining EMDR’s therapeutic benefits throughout your processing work.

While EMDR is effective for mood disorders and beneficial for anxiety relief, research shows mixed results for non-trauma conditions. You’ll find it’s most effective when combined with other treatments like CBT, rather than as a standalone therapy. While you might experience improvements in anxiety and depression symptoms through EMDR, it’s not consistently superior to traditional treatments. Your best results may come from using EMDR as part of a thorough treatment approach that includes established therapies.

How Many EMDR Sessions Are Usually Needed for Significant Improvement?

The number of sessions needed varies based on your specific situation. You’ll likely need 3-6 sessions for single-incident trauma, while complex trauma typically requires 12-20+ sessions. Your therapist will monitor your progress throughout treatment to adjust the timeline. If you’re dealing with chronic conditions or multiple traumas, you might need approximately 10 sessions per traumatic event. Client progress monitoring helps determine when you’ve achieved sufficient improvement to complete therapy.

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